It’s fine not to be fine!

I find people fascinating. One of my favourite holiday pastimes is sitting, preferably in a café, people watching. Not only do we come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, we come with an amazing mix of personality and characters yet we have at least one thing in common: we all go through stuff.  Life, and here is a thought, our heavenly Father, brings to us things we would rather not have to handle or face.

Whether it is issues relating to health, (to be clear, Father does not bring sickness or illness on us) relationships, work, or in our own heads and hearts we have to handle and process situations, circumstances or conditions that can’t be avoided and have to be faced. As someone once said “there are some mountains you just have to climb”  (Matthew 21:21).

So the question is, how do you handle the stresses and strains of 21st Century life? Are you a hermit, keeping everyone out, retreating to a safe place and coming out again when you have processed or buried what you are handling? Or are you one of those who openly displays their life on their sleeves for all to see? Or are you, like so many, somewhere in between?

No doubt our ‘ologists can explain why we behave the way we do and yes there are some things that are down to us to get on and deal with ourselves; however there is for us a better way to handle life’s difficulties.

Our conventional greeting goes something like this:-  Hi, how are you? This is followed by the almost automatic response I’m fine thank you, and you? Our masks remain firmly in place, no chinks in our armour …..  Perhaps, especially as followers of Jesus, part of our coming to maturity in Christ is to learn to dispense with those pesky masks. 

We have been placed in the Body of Christ and added to a specific congregation, a family of God’s people and as part of that family we are there to look out for and support one another. A family who we can learn to trust and be open and honest with and from whom we can receive help, support and most of all be loved. I am not suggesting we open our lives to everyone but to those we have developed a deep strong relationship of trust.  *1

Women have historically been better at this and a good example of this is the play “The Steamie”. Men generally speaking give nothing away! And it seems to me that in our digitally connected age we can have a million friends yet feel alone and lonely.

My point is this, let us “be there” for one another and let us have the faith and confidence to take off our masks and if we are not fine then say so, as the reality is if one part of the family is struggling the whole family is affected. *2 

Perhaps we can take things a step further and be proactive in our care for one another. *3; *4

And finally, if you don’t want an honest answer, if you are not prepared to love..… Don’t ask ! 

But it’s fine not to be fine!


*1 Galatians 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. 

*2 1 Corinthians 12:26-27 And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if one member is honoured, all the members rejoice with it. Now you are Christ’s body, and individually members of it.

*3 Philippians 2:4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

*4 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.

Pastor Allan

Taking Every Opportunity

When we were reviewing the structure of the new website and David pointed out that we have a section for the Pastors to write a blog my immediate response was “that will be for you then”! However the fact that you are reading this shows that I have had a change of view. As I was sitting this morning with my cup of tea (yes, tea) thinking about the new site I was reminded of what was probably the first prophetic word I ever received back in 1977 and it was “don’t be like the tortoise which pulls back and hides in its shell”. When it came to this opportunity I was being a tortoise!

The other thought I had was how our experience with this new site is like our personal encounter with the Lord, when we believed in Jesus and gave our lives to Him declaring Him as Lord of our lives we were made brand new. The old was done away with and replaced with the new. (2 Corinthians 5:17) My simple encouragement to us all today is don’t be like the tortoise, don’t give in to fear or rationalise yourself out of taking that first step of obedient faith. Take every opportunity God gives you, you never know what opportunities it will give you or where it may take you.

Wherever you are at in your life as a follower of Jesus, remember you are a brand new person, the old has gone and the new (made in the image of Christ) has replaced it. Resist those feelings, thoughts, circumstances and people that would drag you back to think and live like the old you.

Finally, if you have not already done so I strongly encourage you to look to God and trust in Him for this life and the next for only in Him will you find true purpose and peace in life. Here is a simple prayer of trust:-

Heavenly Father, I don’t want to continue living my own way, I want to go your way instead and I am sorry for everything that is wrong in my life and I ask that you forgive me. I acknowledge that Jesus is my Lord, and believe with all my heart that you raised him from the dead.

Right now Lord Jesus please come into my life by your Holy Spirit and make me a brand new person. Thank you Lord that you have heard and answered my prayer. Amen

Every Blessing

Pastor Allan